l have been with my boyfriend for 18 months.
l agreed to be open with my parents about when me and him were ready to have sex.
They agreed to take me to the doctors..well thats what the initially told me.

When l eventually asked and confided in them they refused to take me to the doctors.

l know that l can get it without their permission but l wanted to be open with them about it.

l feel my parents have made a big mistake, they're lucky that i'm sensible enough to wait to be protected, l know alot of teens who'd just do it if they were confronted with uncooperative parents.

l know in the future if l have a daughter i'd have an open, supportive relationship with her about this because teens are teens.

l know its hard since i'm their daughter but they need to accept that l wanna make decisions of my own.

What are your opinions on this?
Thankyou

your gonna have to do it on your owwn

l think it is stupid that they are not taking you, after you are showing responsibility. D:

And they know what it is like to be a teen.

Well, you are almost grown, the decision should be yours to take that path.

fffhg

you do not need their permission. go to planned parenthood or central district health you can get it yourself

just tell them im going to do it anyways so do you want me to be protected or not

have more respect for yourself!! close your legs

It was very mature of you to be open and speak with them about it. You are, legally, almost an adult. Do you have Planned Parenthood in your area? That would be something to try. Let them know that you confided looking for their support.wanted to speak with them on an adult level.but, overall, you have to do what you have to do for YOU. Good luck. : )

l think that you are completely right. Youre parents should be happy that you are talking to them about this and that you are wanting to protect yourself. Tell them how you can get pregnant, or get diseases, and that if they want the best for you, they should consider helping you get the pill.

Wait one more year! At the age of 18 you will become independent and leave your parents. Then you will have children of your own and they will leave you once they reach 18, and the cycle will go on!

l dont think it has anything to do with being open, its trust & honesty that u should be respected for. You r a young lady going into the real world & making decisions for yourself, l think ur parents r being very old fashioned, What do they want a grandchild so early in life. Good luck with ur future & by the way u do not need permission to go on the pill, u r able to go to the doctor without mums knowledge. It seems ur parents like to have it this way..
take care

You should know that depending on what state you live in you can go to planned parenthood and they do not have to tell you parents.
you should also know what BC is not the only thing you should do you also need to protect yourself from STD

:) good luck

It is because your parents love you and you are still at 17 years old considered a child. Once you're 18 you can do what you want, but until then, you're parents are making your decisions for you. You should be thankful you have parents and somebody cares about you. Your parent only want the best things for you. wish you well.

wow smart and mature impressive,i'd straight out ask em if it'd be better if they raise a grand child

l was 17 once and l ran away with my gal and told my parents to screw off. Now l am 40, have not seen that gal in 20 years and l am so thankful to be done with that time in my life. Trust me, it is easier to not have sex and avoid a sticky situation. Concentrate on studies, get a degree, a life and THEN you will be ready to get married and have kids.

well im 14 and im on the pill but not for sexx l just get really sick during my period so its supposed to help with that !! but just tell ur parents that ur gonna hvae unprotected sex and its not ur fault if u get pregnant (dont actually do it just say that) !! u would think they would let u tahts kinda odd !! well good luckk !! hoped l helped !! :))

they think you're too young.sorrry you can not do anything really unless you convince them.try to go to like a planned parenthood place or something

Wait till you leave home before thinking about having sex. Your parents have your best interests at heart. There is lots of things you want to do when you're young but later in life (or sooner) you will wish you would have waited.

Have you thought about which Convent you'd like to go to?

17 is a terrible age legally. You can be charged criminally as an adult, but you're still legally a child.

You need to wait.

Oh yeah. They're real lucky to have a sensible daughter like you, selling your virginity at 17.

That is all l got to say.
good day.x

just go on your own to a planned parenthood or a local clinic and you will probably get it for free what they're doing is wrong they should support your decision to use birth control instead of not because you will be having sex anyway and its your decision to make and you do not want to get pregnant like so many teen girls today

l think youre totally right. You're a very responsible person and l am glad you're taking care of yourself. Honsetly, my opinion is that you need to go to planned parenthood (bcp is are free here if youre under 18) or wherever it is you're planning on going because you're def old enough to make that descision about your body at this age. good luck.

Just be responsible as ur trying to do & get them on ur own. along with making ur partner wear protection! l can not believe ur parents r acting like that. What, would they rather have a grandchild? l guess they think they're doing the right thing.they do not want u out here like jaime lynn spears & all the rest of the teenage moms. But just protect yourself. Try talking to them again maybe. & if it gets to hasty.maybe u should wait till ur 18. It is just sex.and it wo not go anywhere! Becoming sexually active will bring a whole nother world of issues in ur world..that u may not want during ur senior year.

your parents should let you go on the pill, or have the doctors number for emergency contraception, or the morning-after pill. The pill is the safest way to keep you from becoming pregnant. Unless of course, your parents are of a certain religion, because some religions prohibit the use of contraception. Just stay safe and do not do it until you know it is safe, and of course, get your boyfriend to use a condom. Good Luck.

Explain to them that you love your boyfriend and a year and a half is a long time. Also say that it would be better for you to be protected then have a higher risk of being pregnant.

You do not need parental consent to go ont the pill.
Tell them, if you are going to be sexually active
it is best to make sure you're doing it the responsible way,
by protecting yourself from reproducing. Or just use condoms
until your 18, and can make your own descions.

l am the parent of a 16 year old & put her on the pill. She did not want to go on it, but l think it is a very smart decision. She is been with her boyfriend for 19 months & she says she is not having sex. l told her that l did not want her to, but if & when it happened she needed to be prepared. l do not condone it, but l also know that it happens. l wish ur parents would listen to you. They r lucky u r open with them. You can go to the doctors & get on it yourself or even Planned Parenthood. Be safe!

Have you asked them why they feel this way? Does it have something to do with the relationship you have with your boyfriend that worries them? If that is it consider why and what they are saying. You can not turn back the clock once you have taken the step. Of course in the end if you are going to have relations with him regardless of what they say you have to take matters into your own hands and play it safe.

there is only 1 rule that applies here. their roof (house), their rules. if u want to be independent & live ur own life, live on ur own somewhere else - not there. simple as that. if u believe that u r mature enough to be responsible, then be responsible for ur own life & ur own actions, leave ur parents alone. they r just concerned for ur well being. on the other hand, u can always leave home, go get find a job & live ur own life - be a responsible person for once!

Your so right! some parents are a bit too scared of letting there babies go,. that they end up putting us in an even more dangerous position.
Not too many kids are that open with there parents, or who even offer to go on the pill,. but anyway good luck with that and try sitting down and talking with them some more until they see your point

That is very frustrating. l would bring up examples of what could happen if you had sex without going on the pill. There are safe ways to do it and plenty of dangerous ways to do it. Ask them which they prefer.

l really respect u for wanting to include ur parents. im 18 & have been having sex & my parents have no idea. l think that if ur parents refuse to accept ur decision then there r always other ways of protection. just be careful!

i would let them know what u plan to do (or not do) & then go for it. do not wait for their answer.

just be sure that u ALWAYS use a condom & pull out because it may have a tiny hole in it.

basically, just dont be stupid & youll be fine
koodos on the 18 months though, thats a long time to wait. ha ha

Well, let is see.

Ok, ok, parents l am being open with you. l am going to rob the corner bank.

WHY? WHY? WHY? r u not being supportive? l was open with you.

My guess is that u & ur bf r already having sex & that is not all that open. Right?

Maybe ur parents r concerned about u & ur boyfriend. Are u prepared to get pregnant & is he prepared to support this child for the next 18 years of it is life?

Might l suggest u give some thought to what ur parents r trying to tell you?

Well it is kind of irresponsible if they wo not let you. anyway. just do it yourself tell them that you're going to do it yourself - they might even change their minds about taking you!

At least you'd be doing the sensible thing and they'd be the ones in the wrong! It would be their fault if they got mad at you anyway because they told you that they'd take you so seriously do it yourself lol.

l have 2 sides to this question:
1) l think that u should really wait for when ur married & u know u found ur perfect match.
but
2) If u think ur ready for sexual intercoarse it should be allowed as long as ur protected or ready to take on responsibility after the sexual intercoarse after affects & not be the type of human to have an abortion if things lead to that anyway.

Overall: Do It If Your 100% ready but be prepared to take responsibility if u cant do that then dont have sex even if it is safe sex

l personally would NEVER be that open with my parents. Just pretend to be preggie and pretend the condom broke and see what they say then!

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You probably seem too young to them.
But hey, how old were they when they lost their virginity?
If they waited until marriage, well then that is a different story.

It is totally ur choice & it is a big step. If u feel ur ready to have sex then go ahead. They can not stop you.

But l think about sex like this. If l am not ready to be a parent & obviously l am not(13), l wo not have sex. And also love does not equal sex.

Do not let u boyfriend talk u into it. If he wo not accept no for an answer he is not worth it. Just make sure he is the one.

Good luck. Be careful.
A girl in my class (14 now) is pregnant. Only in 8th grade. She is keeping it too. It is just sad. It is only because her parents let her do whatever. They've given up. So give ur mom & dad some time. They will come through sooner or later.

l think it would be better for them to take you. You are almost 18 and deserve to start making your own decisions. If you really want this to happen you can try this:

l take birth control pills because l have really bad periods and they help with that. You can tell them you've been having really bad periods with mood swings, horrible cramps, etc. If they still wo not take you either wait until you can do it yourself, or use condoms.

Well. seems to me that they may believe that the only way is abstinence & they might think that by telling u that u can not be on the pill is their way of thinking u will take a hint & not have sex, but obviously, that is not an option. That is really good that u were open with them, though. l was not open with mine, my mom just found out & said, ''you're going on the pill!'' haha. But if condoms r not an option for u either & u really want to be on the pill, there r tapestries & health centers that r available to help you. If u tell them that u do not want ur parents knowing, they will respect that & they will not tell. This would make a perfect example of making a decision on ur own! :)

Ok,here is the thing.First u have to know that l am seventeen as well,so l am not preaching or anything & l totally get what u r saying! l do the same thing with my parents as well: l tell them everything,the fact that my boyfriend told me he wanted me to be his first girl,the fact that l was thinking of making love with him.Look,we have to understand that parents who encourage their kids to be open with them r taking a huge step forward. l mean,it has to be hard for them too & they have to be totally responsible,right?U did the right thing to tell ur parents & it is a great thing that u do not act impulsively & do something u might regrett for the rest of ur life.If they have objections to ur decision,do try to listen carefully: l found out that apart from their sometimes overexaggerated worry about us they were once in our place & trust me,they know a hell lot of things.They have to know something...Try to explain to them the reasons why u believe it is the right thing to do.And most of all: BE SURE YOU WANNA DO THIS. l used to think it is not a big deal,but trust me it is.That is what thei r worried about.Your first time is not just any time.It is something very special & it is a lifetime experience.

You can not even imagine how close to ur thoughts l am myself. l understand u so much & sometimes l feel too,that parents do not appreciate the fact that we could have been getting laid without them knowing anything for years,we could have done so many things but, instead,we tell them every SINGLE thing.Try to understand them.Luv u darling. l hope u & ur boyfriend will make love the way u both dreamt of & u will complete each other in this grat way.luv u

Your only 17, why r u in such a hurry to give up ur virginity? l know ur boyfriend is probably telling u how much he loves you, how much he needs you, & if u really loved him u would do it. l know it is hard to keep ur physical needs under control, but u should wait until ur married to have sex. Once ur married it is so much more than having sex it is the two of u being one completing each other as the bible teaches. Your parents r trying to look out for you, let them! If u must do it, have ur boyfriend use protection & make sure he does. l hope u choose to wait.

the only thing that the pill will protect u from is pregnancy, if u get into the routine of using protection like condoms etc.. then u will be healthy for life, u talk about babies but what if u contracted something like chlamydia & didnt realise, then got told that u could not have them because of the infection/virus.

the other down fall about going onto the pill whilst u r still growing is that it can cause complications like making ur breasts grow at different rates. l went on the pill when l was 17 & still growing & ended up with unsymmetrical breast, one breast reduction down the line, l still have different sized breasts but now with scars too.

seriously honey, l would seriously think about going on the pill, because the best protection from mostly everything would be a condom.

Whether they say it or not, parents are RARELY comfortable with their daughter having sex. Your gonna have to get it yourself. Your gonna do it anyways so be smart about it!

i'm 18 & l just went through the same thing this summer. my mom told me she supported whatever decisions l made for myself, believing that l was interested in what was best for me. she also told me she would take me to the doctor to get birth control. & this was way before my boyfriend & l were having sex. when l went to talk to her about getting birth control though, she literally stared at me for an entire minute & then got up & walked out the door. so much for the support. after that, she just kept pestering me that l needed to go on birth control. it was mandatory, but she made it clear that she was not going to help me.

my boyfriend was really supportive & understood that like u said, it is hard because l want to be open with my mom. she was the one that was not as open with me. my mom made that mistake, too. here is what l did though. l called planned parenthood & made an appointment for birth control. l went alone (oh, so very scary, l understand), l pay for the birth control by myself & my mom knows that i'm on it. i'm still being open, but it is my own choice. u have to do what is right & what is best for you.

this might be weird to hear from someone u do not know, but l commend u for making a good decision for yourself.
birth control isnt something to be taken lightly, but it was one of the best decisions l made.

good luck!!